Ikeep dating the wrong guys - Why do I keep attracting the wrong girls?!! - GirlsAskGuys


2. You are constantly seeking approval. Ever wonder why you love a challenge? Ever ask yourself why you don’t like the guys that like you? It could be that you aren’t looking for love but instead are addicted to seeking approval, and the selfish man will keep you in a constant state of that.  Since you don’t realize why he never quite seems satisfied with you, your daily MO is aiming to please. It becomes a rush when he is happy and accepting of you, but a terrible let down when he doesn’t.  This indicates that you are dating with your ego instead of your heart.  The heart wants to find comfort and contentment, but the ego wants to seek approval and gain validation. Therefore anyone that you sense you have to “win over” is enticing.  The sad part is that if you ever do triumph and conquer, you’ll just get bored and move on.

Dear Blue,
There you are, rising to the occasion, and in the middle of events, she makes a remark that throws you off. Maybe it's a compliment ("Wow, my husband would have flagged long before this"), maybe it's a complaint ("I'm not sure I can take going at it at this pace every time"), maybe it's detective work ("I must be really turning you on—unless I should be thanking the pharmaceutical industry"). This is one of the difficulties of dating after a long marriage. Even in a long, lousy marriage, you know each other's sense of humor and comfort level with personal disclosure. With a new person, it's all virgin territory. And while I recognize you're both adults and all, it sounds like you've gotten sexually intimate before you really feel relaxed enough to know how to talk to each other about intimate things. I'm wondering why you feel the need for this boost. If you always require it, that's one thing. But if it's just insurance that you will be able to perform even though you're feeling insecure, that's possibly a signal that you should do less performing and more talking. If you don't need the pill, then leave it in the bottle and see how things go naturally. As for responding to her remark—no, you are not obligated to fess up at this point. But if your relationship continues to go well, then down the road this can be the kind of private, funny story about your early courtship that really does make you feel you know each other better than anyone else.


Ikeep dating the wrong guys

Ikeep dating the wrong guys